I had one of those dreams that are very suitable for one of those “hidden psychological meaning”.
I don’t remember much, but: I was at a party with lots of people. After a while, I find my wife, and she’s kissing another woman. I’m surprised at first, then a bit intrigued (isn’t that every man’s fantasy?). But the party then goes on and I find her once again, now kissing another woman. And I’m now perplexed. After a while again, I meet her, greet her, try to kiss her and get a simple kiss in return, you know, the usual “married couple kiss”, nothing passionate. Only after that, I feel cheated by what I saw earlier and feel extremely sad. I go cry in a corner, and my daughter comes telling me she wants to play with me, but I don’t feel like playing, and she doesn’t seem to notice that I’m sad.
It’s interesting that, as you’ve noted yourself, you only become sad when it’s a matter of comparison. It’s like by trying to become involved you were disappointed, or rejected.
Maybe it’s about you wanting to be a part of something, or feel included, but you’re frightened of not being good enough. The fact that they’re women perhaps emphasises that - you feel like the other people have an attribute or a skill that you don’t.
Haha! I love that concept of a criminal haunting people’s dreams. We’ll probably be well ahead of it by the time that happens for real. We’ll be on some sort of dream crime committee, or maybe a special underground gang gone rogue to save the city.
Literally just now I dreamed I woke up here and immediately started eating a Caramac bar (I’ve not had one in years and it’s not a common bar in the UK, and I’m guessing not in other countries either - photo for reference).
It was in a big white roasting dish that I own, because it was really gooey and melt. I felt like it was growing inside my mouth. Big blobs of it were falling into the dish. I also didn’t get up to eat it - I stayed laying down.
Let me ask… do you guys abroad know anything about him? He’s not the typical Italian singer, and his band is known to host some of the most skilful Italian musicians. His style is very complex and full of musical references. I really don’t know if he’s famous outside Italy. I love his music, I think he’ll deserve a specific post I’ll write in the music thread soon.
So… today I had a lot of dreams. But it’s not what I want to talk about, since I forgot most of them for a reason.
Have you ever experienced sleep paralysis? It happens to me quite frequently, even if today was the first time in a couple of months.
The first time it happened to me I thought I was getting abducted by aliens. Not kidding. I was lying in bed and I thought I had my eyes open, as I could see what I usually saw from my bed, but I couldn’t move. The more I tried to move, the more everything around me began shaking. This shaking motion became stronger and stronger and I felt a buzzing sound and blue lights started rotating around me. I wasn’t scared, or, well, I wasn’t terrified, but it was more like “what the hell is happening now?”.
Luckily, considering myself a man of science, the first thing I did when everything came back to normal was going online and looking for rational explanations. Otherwise I’d be believing the signals.
Today it seemed like someone was putting a key in our apartment’s door and I thought my wife told me things like “someone is breaking in” and “we didn’t lock the door”. But I couldn’t move. Now I’m pretty used to sleep paralysis, so as soon as I can’t move I know it’s a “dream”, so I stopped worrying about the door.
But then the difficult part, for me, is waking up. I usually concentrate on moving or talking. If I manage to produce a sound or move a limb, then I can break free and wake up. BUT: do you know how comfortable a bed is when you just woke up? Well… I sometimes fall asleep right after and fall trapped again in the non-dream. Today it happened twice, I thought I was able to wake up, but relaxed and bam, my body was asleep again and my mind was not. And I don’t notice right away, since I think I’m still awake, I see my room and all. I notice as soon as I want to move again.
That’s interesting. I’ve had similar experiences.
I was in the bed, I was like awake, but I couldn’t get up or open my eyes to see the sensible world. I was trapped in the world created by mind during dreams. I had fear, because usually that state was associated with fear of someone that could get into the house, or put a gun through the external iron doors of the bedroom, especially during some quiet summer nights I slept alone.
There’s a reading I would suggest to everyone following this topic: Die Traumdeutung (The Interpretation of Dreams), by Sigmund Freud. It’s a great introduction to theories about interpretation of dreams and to the psyche too (despite I do not agree with all the aspects of the Freudian theories, I think some of his bases - in particular dreams as the main road to the subconscious - are really important). I’m not a psychologist at all, but I like reading of philosophy and anthropology.
I have. I don’t like it at all.
I don’t have it very often, and I can’t remember what I was dreaming at the time, but it’s not a very nice feeling for me. Taking some deep breaths can help me break free from it.
I don’t think so, and I don’t envy people that have. It sounds very frightening. I think there’s a chapter about it soon in the audiobook I’m listening to.
I read that at uni - I think it was one of the things that ignited my interest in dreams and the subconscience.
I totally agree. I’m not sure about some of the dream analogies he made as I think they really depend on the individual and their circumstances, but he did a lot of good work that is now the basis of modern psychology.
